HS93, I don't think anyone was telling you that you were doing it "wrong", but merely giving their preferred methods.
I spent 36 years in the meat industry, working in butcher shops and abattoirs, and sharp knives were an absolute MUST, especially for skinning cattle (in the days before hide pullers, when the beast was entirely skinned by hand). The knife needed to have an extremely sharp and very smooth edge, that is no slight nicks in the edge which would catch on the tissue between hide and carcase. Knives were sharpened on fine grade oil stones, and many of us used kerosene as a lubricant, although some used soapy water. The kerosene had the effect of floating the fine steel particles out of the surface of the stone, therefore allowing better honing of the blade. The knife was then finished off on a SMOOTH steel to give a razor edge. I might add that the knife was washed clean before use, to remove all traces of the kerosene.
One thing I did learn was that you NEVER use the same stone for sharpening knives, as you would for chisels or plane blades, the reason being that sharpening knives tends to wear a curve in the centre of the stone, as well as round off the edges slightly. Using a stone worn in this manner for chisels and plane blades would result in those tools having uneven edges, as the stone was not perfectly flat. HS93's photos show what I believe is a perfectly sharpened chisel, with the concave face from the grinder, and a beautifully straight sharp edge from the stone at just the right angle, which enables the tool to make a very clean cut in the wood.
Peter.