Jay:
Another question is ive got a normal car charger that will charge at 6v or 12volts and only puts out 6 amps (not that i would charge my SLA with it )
But why not?
Put it this way, do you have an alarm system in your house? You do? So have you ever wondered how the system remains on-line even when there is a mains outage? If you're really nosy, you'll kill the power to the alarm, disarm the anti-tamper loop, then take a butcher's inside the panel. See that black blob there?... that's the SLA battery. That's the baby which keeps the system running - even in the advent of said power outage. See that mains transformer there, also? That's the baby that maintains a constant trickle charge to the SLA. It's doing exactly the thing that bothers you about charging your SLA from a car charger... albeit at a smaller charging rate.
You said your charger "
only puts out 6 amps". Bear in mind that 6A is a heck of a lot of current. But If you're that concerned, stick a low'ish-value, high-wattage resistor in series between your car charger and SLA first.
But before you go doing any irrepairable damage, a shot of common sense will tell you that shoving 6 amps up, say, a 3-amp SLA is asking for trouble if you leave it connected for longer than is healthy. Just apply the golden amps-per-hour rule. And don't feel guilty about your sudden impulse to buy me a crate of Strongbow.