Pugwash, since you have no available room for a separate on/off switch, you might consider staying with the jack plug/socket idea since the particular socket shown in the sketch serves double duty, acting as a power on/off switch while at the same allowing you to recharge your battery without recourse to removing the battery from the boat.
A 'blank' plug (a plug without any wires soldered to its connections) serves as your on/off switch. Push the blank plug into the socket to turn off the battery supply; remove the plug in order to supply power to your ESC.
The socket in this case, although still of the mono flavour, has four connections - not two as depicted in the previous sketch above. You might try Maplin or ESR or most any electronic supply company for the socket.