Mark
I'm impressed. Nice yacht. She will sail wonderfully when finished.
I'm a big scale sail fan so would follow a build like this.
I don't know if any info I give will help but some of it might "light up a spark of an idea".
The pictures show a brigantine I built which had two sail arm servos (one for main and fore sail and one for fore stay, jib and flying jib) and also a home built horizontal drum winch, controlling the yards on the fore mast. The sail arms overlapped, to save space, but were isolated from each other by a clear plastic sheet. This stopped the loose sheets getting tangled. This is very important.
The sail arm servos were just standard sized (metal geared) servos. Use a more powerful or bigger servo for longer sail arms or big sail areas. They and this set up have worked without fault for years. The hull of this model is 600mm to give a sense of scale.
The horizontal drum winch is also using a standard servo, but it has had the pot (potentiometer) disconnected so that it continues to run in either direction unless the transmitter stick is centred. On the end of the drum is a simple adjustable spring clutch. This means the winch runs till the sheets pull tight then the clutch slips so nothing gets broken. The gears (from a kids toy) add power and slow the movement down to scale speed. The little black vertical cylinders each contain a lead fishing weight which pulls any slack out of the sheets and stops the drum getting all tangled up. Looks complicated but is simplicity itself. The Tx control stick for this function must retain the return springs so that it self centres and therefore stops the winch. One side of the drum "pays out" while the other side "gather in".
I built this as a self contained unit so that it could be bench tested before fitting. Again it has worked faultlessly after some minor adjustments.
I hope you can make sense of all this rambling. It might be that a horizontal drum winch like this could be adapted to your needs.
Good modelling.