Don't lose any sleep regarding them diodes in my previous post. Common concensus seems to be that it's perfectly okay to go without.
For what it's worth, I have noticed on at least a couple occasions where the gel-cells were acting up , then the problems went away with the diodes in circuit. If you eyeball the sketch in FLJ's last post you can see the diodes I'm talking of (marked as 2 x 20A Schottkys). It's up to you to decide to go with them, but don't break into a sweat if you think it may be more hassle than it's worth to use them.
I guess all this is a moot point - not really helping you with your present situation.
Listen, I noticed you don't have a means of putting up a photo. Does that mean you are without a digital camera? Don't take this the wrong way, but I have a spare camera doing nothing. It's a Cannon 7.1 mega-pixel job - not the best in the world, but pretty nifty for day-to-day general use. It's yours if you think it'll help any.
Hang in there, don't give up just yet. Keep pumping as much info. as you can - someone here is bound to hit the magical solution at some point. A photo or two, or even a simple sketch of your present lash-up, sure would help with a possible prognosis/diagnosis.
In the meantime, walk away from it for a while. Pour yourself a beer, sleep on it, wake up with a fresh mind.
Holler if you need fuses.